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Masks and masculinity

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Miguel Ângelo Estorninho, a 26-year-old digital marketer, in a black face mask, cap and T-shirt in front of a curved modern building in Lisbon

In the summer of 2020, wearing a face mask in public was almost universally recommended. Donald Trump, then in his first term as US president, refused to wear one, contradicting his own health experts. In the UK, Boris Johnson went about his business barefaced until he caught the virus himself. Between them, the two leaders presided over two of the highest Covid-19 death tolls in the world, and both had built careers on a brand of alpha dominance that mistakes stubbornness for strength.

Why men wouldn’t wear masks

A survey published that year by American and British researchers found that men were less likely than women to wear a mask, and more likely to see one as a sign of weakness.

It is not unreasonable to suspect the same anxiety was at work in the White House and Downing Street.

The irony is that more men than women were dying from the virus. Whatever the reason, biological or behavioural, a mask helped stop it spreading. By that logic, fragile masculinity may well have been costing lives.

It is a familiar pattern. In the UK, men are three times more likely than women to die by suicide, and many don’t seek help in time because they fear it will make them look weak. The mask was simply a smaller, more visible version of the same problem.

The photo essay

So Attaboy! asked men from all over the world to send us photos of themselves wearing their masks with pride. Consider it a public health campaign with better cheekbones.

Snake, a fashion designer from Milan, wearing a face mask
Snake, fashion designer, 28, Milan, Italy

“You are weaker without a mask in this current climate. Think of it as a fashion accessory if that helps.”

Snake
Student Philips Joseph wearing a face mask in Karnataka, India
Philips Joseph, student, 19, Karnataka, India

“As a man, I understand the pressures of masculinity and the impact it has on the way we look, but this virus doesn’t care what you look like.”

Philips Joseph
Business student Fahad Bin Haneefa wearing a face mask in Kerala, India
Fahad Bin Haneefa, business student, 19, Kerala, India

“Wearing a mask in this Covid-19 situation can only make you stronger, and if that means looking weak in the eyes of the public then so be it. It is more important to be strong on the inside than the outside.”

Fahad Bin Haneefa

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